I dedicated 27 years of my life to a relationship and at the end of it, what is there to show for it? 2 beautiful children, yes, and don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for them for I cannot think what my life would be like without them. However, shouldn’t there be more? Don’t we all want some sort of gratification in our personal lives to show for it, whether it be marriage for some? Personal growth and development, achievement, success, investments? I don’t know! But I really don’t think anyone goes into a relationship, stays for 27 years and wants to see nothing! If I am wrong, tell me.
And you may be asking, who am I blaming for all this? Firstly, why when someone vents, it is taken to mean that you are blaming someone? And should I be blaming someone; it cannot be none other than myself.
I saw the signs and ignored it. We all do. We make excuses. We cover. We shove under the mat. We hope it would change. We think we could change it.
I am sure you have heard this before but repetition is the mother of all skill and I am here to repeat today that once the signs presents itself, you do not possess the superpower to change it; not now or ever! And yes, it becomes worse over time once ignored.
This post is the beginning of a blog series on this website titled ‘In Hindsight’. They say hindsight is 20/20. Of course it is, because then you can look back with a clear mind without the clutter of emotions. The one thing a woman possesses that will cloud her mental clarity and affect every decision she makes.